How to Approach an Attractive Woman in a Club
It’s pretty clear that if you’re looking to get out of the house, blow off some steam, and meet some beautiful women, you’re going to end up at some type of club.
Clubs are places people can go to drink, dance, meet other people, and have a good time with their friends. So it only makes sense that men would gravitate towards these places in their efforts to find women.
There are a few things to know and understand about the club scene though.
The first is that you’ll be competing with a LOT of different stimulus. There’s the loud music, flashing lights, competition from other men, and alcohol.
In situations like this, beautiful women have their guard up. Why? Because they are getting approached a LOT – mostly by guys they don’t find attractive or interesting.
More than that, though, is the fact that they have friends around to run interference for them.
Understand that women tend to travel in groups to places like bars and clubs. This is a safety mechanism, because they need friends around to make sure they’re not raped or accosted.
So taking all this into account, hooking up with a girl at a club becomes a much more daunting task than one would normally think!
But that’s not to say it’s impossible. If you really want to meet beautiful women in clubs, you have to step your game up a notch to deal with all the factors that are going against you.
First, you need to understand the stimulus that is present in the club. Say you are dancing, and the music is just blaring. You can’t hear a thing. You’ll have to rely on your body language to support you here.
Instead of trying to shout “would you like to dance?” over the blaring music, try locking eyes with her, and motioning with you finger to come over, smiling confidently. It’s far more effective.
When it comes to club hook-ups, 90% of the battle is keeping other men at bay once you’ve zeroed in on the girl you like. If she has guys in her group, try and befriend them and win their approval. If guys are coming up trying to ruin your chances, you have to pull your girl away from them and make it clear to the guy that he’s stepping on your territory.
But the biggest lesson to be aware of when approaching beautiful women in clubs is to be social enough to engage her entire group of friends.
This is VERY important.
What will usually happen is a guy will approach a girl, ignore her friends, and then after putting in a great deal of time and effort, the friends will come in at the last minute and drag the girl away!
Remember – friends are there to PROTECT each other. So if you don’t engage the girl’s group and let them get to know you and approve of you, you are going to have a very hard time closing the deal!
You also need to be very aggressive in a club scene. Try hard to get the girl to leave the club with you and go somewhere else where you can begin to build attraction with her (assuming you haven’t done so in the club already).
If you aren’t getting her out of the club, then try for her number. Understand though, if she doesn’t really like you, it’s doubtful you’ll get a call back. Some girls are very flirtatious and fun while in a club, but once they sober up and are home, there is a chance they’ll have forgotten all about you.
Clubs can be tough, but it’s all part of the game. Try to make your focus about enjoying yourself, rather than hooking up. Hook ups will happen when you are having fun and least expect them!
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